Something tells me that from time to time you get this nagging little voice inside your head that tells you you’re a fraud. And it probably throws in a few little tidbits about why you can’t possibly do what it is you’re about to do.
How do I know...what am I...psychic?
While that would helpful for many reasons, sadly, I’m not the least bit psychic. The truth is, those fears about not being talented enough or smart enough are actually pretty common. We ALL feel that way from time to time. Even the most successful leaders and entrepreneurs.
It’s so common in fact, there’s actually a term for it: Imposter Syndrome. And believe it or not, somewhere in the neighborhood of 70% of us have experienced it at some point. Ironically, the ones who fall victim to Imposter Syndrome are high achievers - like you.
Now, let’s get one thing straight; feeling doubtful and unsure -especially when you’re...
When it comes to mulling over the idea of becoming your own CEO or even switching careers within the corporate world, understanding that you have the skills to do the work that’s required is the easy part. It’s getting over the fear of failure that trips most of us up.
With a lot of the women, I work with (and for myself when I first thought about leaving my cushy corporate job), using the skills they’re valued for in the workplace to build their own businesses makes perfect sense. The problem is, they doubt they can actually do it.
Recognizing fear of failure for what it is, is tricky. It likes to show up as pragmatism and logic. It can feel like your brain is taking a tough-love approach to make you see why you’re being unreasonable to even consider something so dangerous as working for yourself.
And believe me, I get it! I was there too. Leaving the security of my corporate job to work 1:1 with women in the private sector...
A lot of the clients I work with 1:1 in my coaching practice are women who either have a side biz they’re ready to take full time or they’re entertaining the idea of moving in that direction.
Because of my own journey from corporate exec to entrepreneur, I’m well aware of the internal struggle most women go through when trying to decide if they’re ready to make the leap from worker bee to biz owner.
Even if we’ve been successful in the corporate world, we tend to doubt our ability to duplicate it if we were to go out on our own. We worry that we don’t possess the skills we should have or know everything we need to know to make a go of it.
But in my experience, there are 3 main reasons women make the BEST business owners...and dare I say, even better business owners than our male counterparts!
We’re good at multitasking. A study reported in the journal BMC Psychology found that women were actually better...
Let me ask you something...what keeps you from taking action towards your goals?
My guess is the reason isn’t lack of talent or ability. In fact, I’d be willing to bet that the ONLY thing getting in the way of you and your goals is your mindset. You’re not the only one.
Did you know that an independent study done by Hewlett Packard found that when a new higher-level position would open up within the company, more men would apply if they felt they had 60% of the skillset required for the job, whereas women would only apply if they felt they had 100% of the skills required?
When I read about this, my first thought was, as women, how many opportunities do we pass on because we don’t feel like we have what it takes?
I’m going to be straight with you (it’s what I do.) If my experience working with hundreds of clients over the years has taught me one thing, it’s this: our lack of confidence as women is...
I’ve been spending a lot of time working on my online course over the last few months. Most of my days consist of working with my team on final revisions, recording videos, and preparing slide decks for the course. And every once in a while, as I’m reading through the content, I’m reminded of my corporate days and the challenges of being one of a handful of women in a male-dominated company.
As working women, there’s no doubt we have a lot to contend with. From the “Boy’s Club” mentality of senior management that would sooner give the promotion to a less qualified candidate just because he’s a man, to the fact that women (on average) earn about 20% less pay than their male counterparts, working your way up the corporate ladder can feel like a never-ending climb.
While we’re bound to encounter a few roadblocks as we navigate our way through the business world, it’s become clear to me from my own experience and...
We’ve all done this, right? You post a selfie on Facebook or Instagram and within seconds you find yourself obsessively checking the app to gauge the response. The rush you get from every like, comment, and share is powerful and addictive. Instant gratification at its finest.
In the age of social media, we’ve grown accustomed to receiving validation online. We’ve given sources outside of ourselves the power to build us up or tear us down based on whether they choose to double-tap or not.
Most of us are at least a little guilty of getting sucked into the social media vortex from time to time. But if you already struggle on some level with feelings of inadequacy, social media can become an unhealthy obsession when other people’s reactions to your online persona become critical to your feelings of self-worth.
How can you tell if social media has become more harmful to you than helpful? Here are 4 signs you may need a little bit of a break...
You know, when my marriage fell apart, I knew I had a lot of emotional baggage to unpack. After all, how could I allow myself to spend so many years in an abusive relationship? There was no excuse. After all, I grew up in a super supportive family with parents who loved me, so why would I let someone treat me so badly when I had no template for that?
Trying to figure out what was going on inside my head and changing my self-destructive patterns was very important to me, so after I left my husband, I decided to try therapy.
Now, you’d think that by meeting with a therapist I was reaching out for the help I so desperately needed at the time. And I was...sort of. Except I was lying to my therapist.
It’s true. I’m not proud of it but there was a part of me that felt so much shame about not ending my marriage sooner. And the worst part was the shame I carried around about asking for help.
But why? It didn’t make sense! I...
In the past, I’ve spent plenty of time in the dead space of lack of confidence and clarity and I know I’m not alone. Maybe you can relate…
You’re finally ready to pursue that lingering idea you’ve had to start a side hustle, or you’ve mustered up the courage to throw your hat in the ring for a promotion at work. You’re super excited and determined to make it happen. And then the voice of “reason” speaks up and clouds your brain...it makes you question your ability to succeed. You can’t imagine why you thought that crazy, hair-brained idea would ever work in the first place.
When your confidence starts to take a nose-dive, all the clarity you had about what you wanted and how to make it happen disappears along with your motivation. You start thinking things like, I can’t possibly… and This will never work...
The funny thing about confidence and clarity is...
I don’t know about you but there’s something about the changing weather that gives me a rush of energy and creative ideas, and the timing couldn’t be better!
It just so happens that this surge of motivation and creativity has coincided with some amazing new projects and great opportunities to do a few things that have definitely been out of my comfort zone.
For starters, I was asked to speak at an event for International Women’s Day back in March. I got to share the stage with some pretty courageous women who are doing some amazing things in the world.
I’ve also been working on the content for my upcoming book and digital course, both of which focus on giving women the tools and the confidence to share their brilliance with the world.
I love the work I’m doing – I’m very passionate about empowering women to shine! But when you try new things, the old inner critic you thought was on a permanent hiatus tends to...
Rejection is one of the worst things out there. It’s played a part in diminishing confidence in even the strongest, most independent women. It doesn’t matter if it’s rejection in love or in business, it all feels brutal.
Rejection leaves us questioning our abilities, our self-worth, and sometimes our entire course in life. And I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it’s time for a dose of hard truth, a little tough love if you will. You’ll never be able to fully eliminate rejection from your life. Any situation that has the potential for rejection typically involves another person. Maybe a lover or maybe a boss. Maybe your business loan lender, or maybe new acquaintances. And since we can’t control the actions of others, we can never fully prevent rejection.
Now, if we’ve all been through it SO many times and if it isn’t avoidable, then why is it that it never gets easier?
Well, my friend, it’s probably...